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Bloggers: Thicken Your Skins!

While there are plenty of good things online, there are also several horrible things --- from minor things like trolls and critics - to really major ones like peodophiles and terrorists using the web to do atrocious things.

That's why one of the things that I mentioned in this entry is to develop bravery as a blogger.

That same blog entry was turned in to an article here. And, that article brought about a criticism from a reader. He was just basically objecting to my use of the word "nutter" in the article.

So, it's either he's just being too sensitive or he simply misunderstood my point. In any case, I don't mean any disrespect in what I've written. But, I know that if someone makes up their mind about something, then even if I try to explain myself 'til the cows come home, I still won't get through to them.

This thought used to disturb me in my early days online. But now, I realise that I have no control about what people think or feel about certain things. I do my best to be considerate and thoughtful about what I write --- and I do avoid conflict as best as I can. I just don't have it in me to start or to be actively involved in flame wars and such things.

They're just time wasters and energy drainers in my opinion. I've got better things to do with my life.

I've agreed to disagree. I've accepted that not everyone will like me (the same way that I know I will not like everyone). I am aware that I will make mistakes and do stupid things. That's OK. I'll just try to correct them if I can and/or apologise, if needed. But, I am no less a person even if other people may say otherwise.

I've learned not to take myself too seriously. And yes, I don't take everything that was said or written to me too seriously either. Otherwise, life will simply be a lot less pleasurable. And, besides, what's the point in getting too worked up over people I've never seen, possibly never meet, and definitely don't add anything significant to my life?

So, that's why I've decided to make use of delete buttons and that little x button on my web browser effectively and as often as I wish to.

Do I get upset at all? Oh, absolutely. I'm human. Anyone who knows me knows that I'm sensitive. I get mad. I go bonkers (hey - another slang that may be construed as offensive!) when pushed to the limit...

But, I also know now that even if I can't control other people's thoughts, feelings and behaviours --- I should be able to control my own.

About the Author Shai Coggins (MTeach, MSoc Sci App Psych)

Shai has been managing and blogging here at ShaiCoggins.com for 17 years. Here, she writes about creativity, productivity, and how to recharge for a better, happier lifestyle. She is the author of Today: Life Journal, Colour Bliss: Kaleidoscopes, and a little known children's book. A serial entrepreneur, Shai also currently runs Vervely.com, a boutique digital media agency offering online content, community, and conversion marketing services. Her blogging experience and digital work have been featured in various media, including being listed in Fast Company's "Most Influential Women in Technology" list. Originally from Manila, Shai lived in Singapore and the USA before moving to Australia with her British husband. They have two children, a pet bunny, and a rambunctious rescue Labrador.

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