"You have to decide what your highest priorities are and have the courage --- pleasantly, smilingly, non-apologetically --- to say 'no' to other things. And the way to do that is by having a bigger 'yes' burning inside."
~ Stephen Covey
I'd like to think that I'm a fairly driven, passionate person. My ultimate dilemma is not the lack of fire in the things that I do and the way I live life - but the knowledge of where my fire would burn best and brightest. Not just for myself, but for those around me. Especially for those that I care about the most.
Recently, I've been confronted by the questions:
"So, what do you really want to do?"
"Now, what are your plans from here?"
"What is it exactly that would make you happier?"
When you're doing what you love, in a place where you want to be, with people you like, I realise that those questions are pretty tough. Especially because life isn't always clear cut. Nothing's ever perfect, though I feel lucky enough to have days that are as near to perfect as they could get. Both in life and at work.
The trouble is, when I'm happy and doing well, I tend to just say yes. Yes to more work. Yes to other challenges. Yes to opportunities. Yes to changes. Yes to doing other things.
And then I begin to wonder, if I am really happy, then why am I beginning to feel worn out?
Why do I feel like I have ordered a large tub of triple chocolate ice cream that I want to finish, but am having trouble swallowing every spoonful that I try to eat?
Find that Bigger 'Yes'...
No one can do it all, even if it means doing all that you like to do.
Learning to say no to some things that I like would be easier, if I know that by doing so, I can say YES to things that I like more.
So yeah, saying no to big tubs of triple chocolate ice cream might be a good idea, if it means I can make room for... Wait. Hang on a minute. What other edible delight can I want more than triple chocolate ice cream anyway?
How about you? Do you know what's your bigger 'yes'?
Shai has been managing and blogging here at ShaiCoggins.com for 17 years. Here, she writes about creativity, productivity, and how to recharge for a better, happier lifestyle. She is the author of Today: Life Journal, Colour Bliss: Kaleidoscopes, and a little known children's book. A serial entrepreneur, Shai also currently runs Vervely.com, a boutique digital media agency offering online content, community, and conversion marketing services. Her blogging experience and digital work have been featured in various media, including being listed in Fast Company's "Most Influential Women in Technology" list. Originally from Manila, Shai lived in Singapore and the USA before moving to Australia with her British husband. They have two children, a pet bunny, and a rambunctious rescue Labrador.