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Stepping Out of the Comfort Zone

Surfers Paradise, Gold Coast

Life has been anything but still lately, it seems. Strange how that works out sometimes.

Just when I was telling myself that I should revel in the stillness - instead of craving for more excitement, more challenges, more dreams - I end up facing one crazy thing after another.

Over the last few weeks, I have faced some interesting work-related situations:

  • Celebrating my first year at Vervely!
  • As part of this anniversary, I am currently looking at launching a new initiative. Something that I've been wanting to do for some time now.
  • Been invited to submit a couple of quotes for possible new work and/or extension of existing work.
  • Exploring a new opportunity that I have been thinking about for months.
  • Travelled to Surfers Paradise, at the Gold Coast in Queensland - to represent my company and to do some work for one of my clients - attending the Connecting Up 2013 Conference. It's my third year to attend this conference, but my first year as my own boss. This is a conference organised by my former employer and one that I used to help to organise.
  • During the conference, I have been approached by a company that I have a lot of respect for, to look at another possible work opportunity.

With all these things happening on the work front, you'd think that I should at least find some stillness in my personal life.

Well, apparently, that's not how it works.

You see, hubby and I have been considering moving from our existing house for some time now. I hate moving, so I have been dragging my feet on this over the last couple of years or so. Pretty much saying "no" for the most part.

But, I indulge the hubby by looking at houses every now and then anyway. Knowing full well that it would take a very special house for me to want to go through the same agony of house buying and selling that I've experienced around seven years ago.

Well, some time last month, we came close to finding a house that we thought we like enough to move into. The house itself was just okay. Nothing great. But, we loved the location. We started negotiations on house prices. But, we never really knew where we stood.

So, we kept looking at other places.

Early this month, we found a really great house. Location isn't bad. Not as great as the location of the other house, though. Especially since it's a little bit further out. But, it's an incredible house that we just loved from the moment we saw it. So, we were really, really torn.

That's why I ended up posting the question: "Okay house, great location OR Great house, okay location" on Twitter and Facebook.

At the end of the day, even though approximately 75% of the respondents on Twitter and Facebook said they'd choose an Okay House in a Great Location, we ended up making an offer on the Great House in an Okay Location. Mind you, the "okay location" still is quite good. Just not in an area that we love just yet. I know some people actually love this area, so perhaps we might grow to love it too.

Anyway, even though it seems to be against all odds, our offer has been accepted.

But, we have a long way to go before we can move. The next big hurdle now is to sell our house in the next couple of months. That means we need to get stuff cleaned, de-cluttered, refreshed, organised, etc. The scary thing is, there's no guarantee that we will sell the house in time.

In fact, seven years ago, we went through a very similar process and we ended up not selling our house in time so we lost the house that we originally wanted. That was a pain. We eventually sold our house still, as we decided to keep it on the market. However, we needed to look for a different house instead.

We ended up in this house that we live in.

And, while this house is not perfection, it is one that I have loved over the years. It became our comfort zone. The one place that the hubby and I have stayed at the longest. Before this, 3 years in the same place was our record (in Singapore).

Now, if all goes according to how things are shaping up, it looks like this family house will be going on the market soon. And, once it goes on the market, I believe that it will stay there until it sells. Whether we end up selling in time for the house we are trying to buy right now or not, we will be moving.

While every fibre of my being resisted being in this extremely uncomfortable spot for years, it looks like staying in my comfort zone will no longer be an option soon enough.

Considering hubby and I moved across continents, countries and cities over the years, it's weird that we're now more terrified of this change than any other that we've done before. Perhaps, growing older does that to one's psyche. It makes us soft. More risk averse. Less willing to step out of that comfort zone.

Ah, now let's see how it all works out. Please wish us luck. 😉

About the Author Shai Coggins (MTeach, MSoc Sci App Psych)

Shai has been managing and blogging here at ShaiCoggins.com for 17 years. Here, she writes about creativity, productivity, and how to recharge for a better, happier lifestyle. She is the author of Today: Life Journal, Colour Bliss: Kaleidoscopes, and a little known children’s book.

A serial entrepreneur, Shai also currently runs Vervely.com, a boutique digital media agency offering online content, community, and conversion marketing services. Her blogging experience and digital work have been featured in various media, including being listed in Fast Company’s “Most Influential Women in Technology” list.

Originally from Manila, Shai lived in Singapore and the USA before moving to Australia with her British husband. They have two children, a pet bunny, and a rambunctious rescue Labrador.

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