Over the last week or so, I have seen Brene Brown's work referenced by some of my contacts online. When you see that sort of thing mentioned more than once, you kind of pay closer attention.
I think I was particularly interested when the word "greatly" was mentioned. And, how it was linked to vulnerability.
If you haven't seen Dr Brene Brown 's December 2010 TEDxHouston talk yet, I have embedded it here. Definitely well worth watching. And absorbing.
If that message from the video resonated with you as at did with me, then her book is worth looking into. Just reading this passage from the book already stirred something in me:
"Vulnerability is not knowing victory or defeat, it’s understanding the necessity of both; it’s engaging. It’s being all in.
Vulnerability is not weakness, and the uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure we face every day are not optional. Our only choice is a question of engagement. Our willingness to own and engage with our vulnerability determines the depth of our courage and the clarity of our purpose; the level to which we protect ourselves from being vulnerable is a measure of our fear and disconnection.
When we spend our lives waiting until we’re perfect or bulletproof before we walk into the arena, we ultimately sacrifice relationships and opportunities that may not be recoverable, we squander our precious time, and we turn our backs on our gifts, those unique contributions that only we can make.
Perfect and bulletproof are seductive, but they don’t exist in the human experience. We must walk into the arena, whatever it may be—a new relationship, an important meeting, our creative process, or a difficult family conversation—with courage and the willingness to engage. Rather than sitting on the sidelines and hurling judgment and advice, we must dare to show up and let ourselves be seen. This is vulnerability. This is daring greatly."
And, really, that's just a tiny part of it. I have only read the first few chapters of the book, Daring Greatly, and I have already highlighted and noted so many things.
That's why I know that this is definitely my book of the month.
How do I know that this is a message that I know has been knocking me over the head for some time now? This is a quote I have highlighted from another book I was reading last year:
Very familiar theme, right?
Yes, the universe has been telling me something for some time now. And, I think I am finally ready to listen.
The catch? Daring, dreaming, and desiring greatly obviously come with a price. It means learning what it means to be "all in". Raising the stakes. Stepping into the arena. Being vulnerable.
Shai has been managing and blogging here at ShaiCoggins.com for 17 years. Here, she writes about creativity, productivity, and how to recharge for a better, happier lifestyle. She is the author of Today: Life Journal, Colour Bliss: Kaleidoscopes, and a little known children's book. A serial entrepreneur, Shai also currently runs Vervely.com, a boutique digital media agency offering online content, community, and conversion marketing services. Her blogging experience and digital work have been featured in various media, including being listed in Fast Company's "Most Influential Women in Technology" list. Originally from Manila, Shai lived in Singapore and the USA before moving to Australia with her British husband. They have two children, a pet bunny, and a rambunctious rescue Labrador.