Most of my best friends live far away. We're separated not just by suburbs, cities, and states. We're countries and continents apart. That's why I don't get to chat with them as often as I'd like outside of Facebook comments and likes.
The beauty of best friends though, is that even if catch-ups are very few and far between, you know that you'll always have plenty to talk about when you do finally chat. You'd still laugh, talk, and vent as if you were never apart. It's never a struggle to pick up where you left off. Even if the relative silence went on for years at a time. No need for apologies. After all, why waste all that time?
It has been over three months since I last updated this blog. I believe it's the longest hiatus I had since starting to blog in 1999. It was an unplanned break from blogging.
At first, it was just due to regular busy-ness. Then, my family had to go through a terrible grieving time when we lost a very dear family member. At the time, I had to single parent my two kids for over a couple of weeks as my husband went overseas to help our family there. More crazy busy-ness happened. And so on it went.
Then, before I knew it, I had too much to say and didn't know how to say it all on the blog. I felt as though I had to explain and trace back steps.
But, I didn't want to do that. Every time I tried to start that explanatory post, I felt awkward and unsure.
You know that feeling when you're chatting with someone you don't know very well - and then the conversation drops at some point? There would be the uncomfortable silence. And, the longer the silence went, the more difficult it was to pick up the conversation again.
That's how I've always felt every time I went on a blogging break.
I was just thinking of that when it hit me -
A best friend, in fact.
People who read my blog are people who really want to get to know me better. Past the photos I share on Instagram and Flickr. Past the short updates on Twitter and my regular shares on Facebook.
People who subscribe to my blog feed are more invested in what I have to say. And, in turn, I give blog readers a lot more of me.
That's why even though I may not update this blog as often as I share on my social networks, this place is still a lot more dear to me. The same way that my best friends will always matter more to me than some people that I may see/talk to more often.
So, even though there had been a long blogging pause, I should be able to come here and pick up where we left off. Like best friends do.
Now here I am, catching up. And I'm pretty sure it wouldn't take too long before our next chat here.
Until then - here's a virtual hug hello from an absentee blogging friend.
Shai has been managing and blogging here at ShaiCoggins.com for 17 years. Here, she writes about creativity, productivity, and how to recharge for a better, happier lifestyle. She is the author of Today: Life Journal, Colour Bliss: Kaleidoscopes, and a little known children's book. A serial entrepreneur, Shai also currently runs Vervely.com, a boutique digital media agency offering online content, community, and conversion marketing services. Her blogging experience and digital work have been featured in various media, including being listed in Fast Company's "Most Influential Women in Technology" list. Originally from Manila, Shai lived in Singapore and the USA before moving to Australia with her British husband. They have two children, a pet bunny, and a rambunctious rescue Labrador.